"It made it much harder to speak to one another"

We came and waited for a scan in a room of expectant parents. Our scan was to see if we had miscarried or not. We were told we had had a missed miscarriage. Immediately after receiving this news we were asked to sit and wait in the same room as before.

Knowing we had lost our child, we were again sitting amongst others who to the best of our knowledge had healthy babies growing inside them or their partners. This felt enormously cruel at the time. It made it much harder to speak to one another and insodoing vocalise our grief. Instead we sat in silence, isolated from one another in shock, pain, denial, suffering alone. 

Please provide a space where parents can have their grieve together, separate from those who's babies are still alive. We lost something very special to us that day and we deserved to be able to acknowledge that fully with each other right away.

A small room would have been enough. Anywhere but where we were asked to go would have been better. This feels like common sense. Please do not let this real life story of what happened to us go to waste.

Compassion for the grieving parents to come would help to make up for having to go through some of the worst moments of our lives without the compassion we deserved.