"Dialectical behaviour therapy could leave me feeling worse?"

I was referred to the Specialist Psychotherapy Service (SPS) team at St George's hospital to do some Dialectical behaviour therapy (DBT) by my GP and other professionals mental health teams because they said that I would benefit from it, I also agreed that it would help me.

I have done other therapies before and I've found them really useful, I know when you do any therapy you have to be mentally prepared for it because the work you do in therapy is very intense and hard work.

Unfortunately I got a letter from the SPS team to say that DBT and further therapy wouldn't benefit me because it could leave me feeling even worse when it ends. I was really disappointed on what they had written because I really worked hard when I've done therapy before and also the therapist who I worked with also said how well I've worked.

I also couldn't understand why they said that further therapy could leave me feeling worse when it ends. What a load of rubbish with them saying that because when I've done any therapy the therapist gave me an end date so I could prepare myself for when it ends, I have never ever found leaving any therapy upsetting.

I phoned St George's up because I wanted to talk to someone so they can explain about the letter they sent me. A member of the SPS team phoned me back so I asked what they meant when they said that ending therapy could make me feel worse when it ends. I told her that what was put in the letter was a in my opinion wasn't true and I never struggle with ending any therapy. She said it was a standard letter what they send out if you are not accepted, what I also found a strange thing to do. I said with me having borderline personality disorder, I've heard that DBT is a good therapy to do, I also said that the last time I did any therapy was 6yrs ago and the last therapy I did ended because of COVID-19.

For years I've been using the skills I've learnt to keep myself safe what has worked so far, I said that I haven't self-harmed for years since I've done the therapy so doing DBT will also show me new skills to use for the future. The person who I talked to said that was great how well I have helped myself over the years. She also said that they only offer DBT to people who are self harming, well in my opinion that is a load of rubbish because you have to be mentally prepared to do any therapy and you would not be accepted it if you self harm anyway. The only advice I was given was to look for some volunteering work.

Honestly she might as well have said that you can't do any more therapy so don't ask for it again 😜😂.